Kind treatment towards Partents and Establishment of the ties of Blood Relationships

Allâh (Subhânau wa Ta’âla) tell us to be kind to our parents. Even if they are Non-Muslims they still deserve our respect and honor. Allâh (Subhânau wa Ta’âla) tells us in the Qur’an:

Worship Allâh and join none with Him (in worship); and do good to parents, kinsfolk, orphands, Al-Masâkin (the poor), the neighbor who is near of kin, the neighbor who is a stranger, the companion by your side, the wayfarer (you meet), and those (slaves) whom your right hand possess.” [Holy Qur’an 4:36]

And fear Allâh through Whom you demand (your mutual rights), and (do not cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship).” [Holy Qur’an 4:1]

And those who join that which Allâh has commanded to be joined (i.e., they are good to their relatives and do not server the bond of kinship).” [Holy Qur’an 13:21]

And we have enjoined on man to be good and dutiful to his parents.” [Holy Qur’an 29:8]

And your Rubb (Lord) has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honor. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: ‘My Rubb (Lord)! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young.” [Holy Qur’an 17:23-24]

And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years-give thanks to Me and to y our parents.” [Holy Qur’an 31:14]

Be at your mother’s feet and there is the Paradise.” (Ibn Majah, Sunan, Hadith no. 2771)

Collection from: Riyâd-us-Sâliheen, Selected and Collected by: Sheikh Safi-ur-Rahman Mubarakpuri; Chapter 39, page 222-228,

‘Abdullâh bin Mas’ûd (Radhi-yallaahu ‘anhu) reported: I asked the Prophet (Sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam), “Which of the deeds is loved most by Allâh?” Messenger of Allâh (Sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam), said, “Salat (prayer) at its proper time.” I asked, “What next?” He replied, “Kindness to parents.” I asked, “What next?” He replied, “Jihad in the way of Allâh.” [Al-bukhârî and Muslim]

Abû Hurairah (Radhi-yallaahu ‘anhu) reported: A person came to Messenger of Allâh (Sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam), and asked, “Who among people is most deserving of my fine treatment?” He(saw) said, “Your mother.” He again asked, “Who next?” “Your mother,” the Prophet(saw) replied again. He asked, “Who next?” He (the Prophet) said again, “Your mother.” He again asked, “Then who?” Thereupon The Prophet(saw) said, “Your Father.” [Al-Burkhârî and Muslim]

In another narration: “O Messenger of Allâh! Who is most deserving of my fine treatment? He(saw) said, “Your mother, then your mother, then your mother, then your father, then your nearest, then nearest.”

Abû Hurairah (Radhi-yallaahu ‘anhu) reported: A man said the Messenger of Allâh (Sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam): “I have relatives with whom I try to keep the ties of relationship but they sever with me; and whom I treat kindly but they treat me badly, I am gentle with them but they are rough to me.” He (Sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam) replied, “If you are as you say, it is as if you are feeding them hot ashes, and you will be with a supporter against them from Allâh as long as you continue to do so.” [Muslim]

Anas (Radhi-yallaahu ‘anhu) reported: Messenger of Allâh (Sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam) said, “He who desires ample provisions and his life be prolonged, should maintain good ties with his blood relations.” [Al-Bukhârî and Muslim]

Zainab Ath-Thaqafiyah (Radhi-yallaahu ‘anhaa), the wife of ‘Abdullâh bin Mas’ûd (Radhi-yallaahu ‘anhu) reported: When Messenger of Allâh (Sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam) told the women that they should give Sadaqah (charity), even if it should be some of their jewelry, I returned to ‘Abdullâh bin Mas’ûd and said, You are a man who does not possess much, and Messenger of Allâh (Sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam) has commanded us to give Sadaqah. So go and ask him if giving to you will serve the purpose; otherwise, I shall give it to someone else. He asked me that I should better go myself. I went and found a woman of the Ansâr at the door of Messenger of Allâh (Sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam), waiting to ask a similar question as mine. The Prophet (Sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam) was endowed with dignity, and so we could not go in. When Bilâl (Radhi-yallaahu ‘anhu) came out to us, we said to him: Go to Messenger of Allâh (Sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam) and tell him that there are two women at the door who have come to ask him whether it will serve them to give Sadaqah to their husbands and to orphans who are in their charge, but do not tell him who we are.Bilâl went in and asked him, and Messenger of Allâh (Sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam) asked him who they women were. When he told him that they were a woman of the Ansâr and Zainab, he asked him which Zainab it was, and when he told it was the wife of Abdullâh bin Mas’ûd he (Sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam) said, “They will have double reward, one for maintaining the ties of kinship and another for Sadaqah.” [Al-Bukhârî and Muslim]



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